Losing and winning

[PsilocybeLarvae]

That's what learning is, after all; not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we've changed because of it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other games. Losing, in a curious way, is winning.


- from "The Bridge Across Forever"
Richard Bach

Couldn't have said it better

My question is why do guys hate to lose so badly? I know there are more competitive persons and less competitive ones, but still most of the guys go nuts even(especially?) when they lose a silly online game.

[PsilocybeLarvae]

Here, went into trouble of finding some article by Richard Vegas.

http://www.1-work-at-home-based-busi...s/winning.html

"You NEVER learn from your successes. You only learn from your losses."

By Richard Vegas ©

[Red Stone]

Barew PsilocybeLarvae!

most of the guys go nuts even(especially?) when they lose a silly online game

And they don't react here...

I know... I know... competition is inside men (and women) since they started populating the earth... unfortunately...

But at this stage I don't embark on that boat. Competition only with myself (trying to do things better today than I did yesterday!), and games, well a good seduction game seduces me...

Otherwise, and with the risk of being a minority and going against all the theories based on this wild capitalist world, if I win, it means that some of my brothers lost, and vice-versa.

My dear mother used to say to me when I was a child that the strongest one is the one who doesn't beat and is not beaten... This is my way of being in this world!

Lav egheq!

[fortune]

Agree as to holding competitions within oneself!... it's really most important when trying to gain sth.
The second but not less important is being able to admit one's being wrong - it' also a victory!...
Losing is never pleasant - losing is considered to be bad - anyhow but for all the losses in our lives we would never taste the marvellous "flavour" of the victories we've had. Losses are inseparable from victories - the thing is people should learn the great art of losing the game.......

[PsilocybeLarvae]

Red Stone, thank you

fortune, agree 100 % ability to lose gracefully with the sense of dignity should be taught

It is probably all-american label of "loser" that i hate, which makes some people think that winning is everything

[Obelix]

My question is why do guys hate to lose so badly?

Well, maybe because we guys are used to winning and dominating... So especially when it involves losing to a woman it might be very annoying.

I personally hate losing when it means losing something i'm not very good at. But generally if I lose something i'm good at I don't carry it so badly...

[JennyWren]

Very nice quotes, thanks !

and here are the quotes I always liked, which I think, many of you perphaps have heard of.

"When you lose don't lose the lesson"
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck."

From instructions for Life in the new millennium from Dalai Lama: